Family Case Study: How We Use Biblical Principles to Build a Strong Family | S6 E25

Mary Alessi [00:00:00]:
This is good medicine. Mhmm. This is not just supplemental. This is the the main diet. This is what will make my kids healthy.

Steve Alessi [00:00:19]:
Hello. Welcome to another episode of the Family Business with the Alessis. Today, you got Steve Alessi and Mary Alessi We are here. In the podcast booth. Yes. And, we wanna welcome you to another one of our episodes. I think you're gonna find today's, subject matter very enlightening and maybe even challenging to what you're hearing in our culture today. But before we do that, I wanna remind you, we have put out a question to our audience.

Steve Alessi [00:00:50]:
It's called the Alessis are asking, and the question for this month was, at the beginning of the year, we asked you a question, what's gonna determine your vote, for which candidate in the upcoming election? And what we found was social, Yeah. That were determining the vote of our, next president. And we're right. It's hot and heavy this year. We're making it happen. You know, a new president is gonna be elected. So what is actually causing you to vote in for which candidate? Well, since we mentioned social issues, I wanted to ask or we wanted to ask this a little bit more specifically. What particular social issue is going to determine your vote? And if you will respond to that, because when you do, we have something we are going to give to you.

Steve Alessi [00:01:48]:
We're gonna put it in a nice little raffle.

Mary Alessi [00:01:51]:
I like that.

Steve Alessi [00:01:51]:
Pull out of the hat, a name for all of those who have put in their questions, and we will or at least the answer to our question, we will send you some of our merch that's here on the table. And right now I need the hoodie because I'm freezing.

Mary Alessi [00:02:07]:
It's cold in here.

Steve Alessi [00:02:08]:
It's cold in the studio today, but we have them available. Alright, Mary. Good to have you sitting with me. This is fun. This is gonna be a good one. This is

Mary Alessi [00:02:16]:
a good conversation we're gonna

Steve Alessi [00:02:17]:
have. So we're gonna be talking about, I don't know how to actually introduce this one. This one is interesting. I can only tell you where it came from.

Mary Alessi [00:02:26]:
Okay.

Steve Alessi [00:02:27]:
Alright. So I was with Christopher and some of the young guys in, the lunch room the other day, and we were talking about chips. It all started with chips.

Mary Alessi [00:02:40]:
Okay.

Steve Alessi [00:02:40]:
Not just potato chips. Chips. And they were joking about that every chip has a certain classification. Like, there's some chips that you can eat with a sandwich, and there's some chips that should never be eaten with a sandwich. Some chips should never be eaten solo. Some chips should be eaten as a snack solo all by themselves. This is definitely a guy conversation. And I actually was intrigued by the way they came to this determination, which chips were for what.

Steve Alessi [00:03:08]:
And so it was Christopher who made a statement and said, yes, I know what I'm talking about because I'm a case study of chips.

Mary Alessi [00:03:16]:
Oh, brother.

Steve Alessi [00:03:17]:
And it hits me about case studies. Yes. Case study is actually, it's like an experiment. Mhmm. You'll see it with drugs. You'll see it with food. You'll you'll see it with, maybe it's more of a health supplement. Right? It's not approved by the FDA, but they'll they'll put people through certain studies.

Mary Alessi [00:03:43]:
Like placebos versus run medication.

Steve Alessi [00:03:45]:
I guess the best way to do it would be for prescription drugs. Yeah.

Mary Alessi [00:03:49]:
Yeah.

Steve Alessi [00:03:49]:
In order to bring a prescription drug to the market Mhmm. The drug company has to go back and do some measure of testing. Right. Right? And part of their testing it is actually going to then happening happen with people.

Mary Alessi [00:04:06]:
Yes.

Steve Alessi [00:04:06]:
So first it starts in some backroom somewhere.

Mary Alessi [00:04:10]:
Like a laboratory?

Steve Alessi [00:04:11]:
Starts in a big laboratory. Then after they do so much in the laboratory, they have to make sure that if it's gonna be done given to human beings, they have to try it on first, they'll do rats. And rat for some reason is most like, I don't know, our our setup is human, but they'll do it on rats

Mary Alessi [00:04:29]:
Yep.

Steve Alessi [00:04:30]:
In rats. Then they'll do it to humans, and they'll test it on humans. Once they figure out how that all play pans out, they will then present it to the the community.

Mary Alessi [00:04:43]:
And I've heard that for some of those pharmaceuticals, it's 20 years of a case study before they could

Steve Alessi [00:04:47]:
long time. When when we started our church, and I wasn't making any money, I was asked to be on an IRB board.

Mary Alessi [00:04:55]:
That's right.

Steve Alessi [00:04:56]:
The International Review Board.

Mary Alessi [00:04:58]:
I forgot that.

Steve Alessi [00:04:59]:
And that board was actually approving what would have been protocols in writing for people that were going to enter into a case study. So they would go into a hospital or a controlled environment run by medical professionals, and they would put them through this case study or this drug trial. Mhmm. And my portion of the actual documentation that had to be signed by the doctor or the person going into it, was more, you know, on the ethical aspect of it. What we had to inform them that if there was a drug they were taking and they were gonna get pregnant, that this could have some negative effect on the pregnancy. So my job was to make sure the ethical aspect of it, the moral aspect of it was clearly stated in the agreement, the documents that they were gonna sign. So all of that to say, before any drug ever comes to the public use, it has to go through a case study. Yeah.

Steve Alessi [00:05:58]:
And it started me thinking this, that you and I first, our lives have been a case study. Yes. And what it means to raise and be raised in a environment that embraces biblical values. Yes. Yes. Godly values. The church environment. We were raised in it.

Steve Alessi [00:06:26]:
And our parents did it back in the sixties. I was born in 1960. You were born in 1968. Yep. So in the seventies, you're a kid. I'm a, you know, teenager. And we

Mary Alessi [00:06:38]:
That's the math.

Steve Alessi [00:06:39]:
We were raised with certain principles Right. That our parents told us we need to operate and obey. We had curfews. We had certain people we could hang out with, certain people we couldn't hang out. Times, you know, at certain ages when we can date, when we couldn't date. Clothes, certain kind of clothes you could wear, you couldn't wear. There, there were principles that were godly principles came from the Bible, that our parents raised us in. That then took us through the seventies and the eighties.

Steve Alessi [00:07:11]:
Right? Then you and I get married in the nineties. And we have our family starting in the nineties. We take those same principles that were taught to us, and we apply them in our own parenting. Right. To then help us raise our own kids. So our kids, they're 3 generations down. Our parents, you and me, and now our kids. The their lives were built on these principles.

Steve Alessi [00:07:41]:
The same ones we did, we were raised on. And now we start to see them wanting to raise their kids with those same principles. That's right. So if you look at it, right, you went, we went through the seventies and eighties, which then brought you and I into the nineties, which then allowed us to raise our kids into the year 2000, 2010. Now we're in the 2,020's. Our kids are starting to use those same principles. You know, the truth of the matter is, Mary, we're case studies Yeah. On how to raise level headed, good hearted Yes.

Steve Alessi [00:08:16]:
Kids in the world today.

Mary Alessi [00:08:18]:
I and I can we just go back to before the case study started with you and me? Both of our mothers, and we've spent a lot of time with our moms, have shared with us the pre biblical lifestyle because neither one of them grew up in that. No. And there was a lot of brokenness. There was alcoholism. There was premature death. There was major major poverty on my mother's side of her family. So they were godless. Relationship and an encounter and they decided they were gonna raise their kids this way, it was brand new for both of them.

Mary Alessi [00:08:58]:
So they didn't pick up where their parent left off. They decided, let's try this new way. Right. And so we were raised with those principles, raising our children with those principles, our kids raising their kids with that principles. And what we are all seeing is, man, this works.

Steve Alessi [00:09:16]:
Yeah. We're not talking about 10 years. No. You put a drug through a

Mary Alessi [00:09:22]:
40, 50.

Steve Alessi [00:09:23]:
You're you're putting a drug through a 10 year process. Right. 5 year process.

Mary Alessi [00:09:29]:
Yes.

Steve Alessi [00:09:30]:
Even though they rushed COVID's vaccine, we don't wanna get into that. They didn't put it through a case study. They didn't do that, which is now presenting That's

Mary Alessi [00:09:38]:
right.

Steve Alessi [00:09:38]:
We're seeing all of this calamity as a result of that stuff. But the drug company is gonna put them through maybe 5, maybe 10 years. You said 20 earlier. To make sure that this drug is proven. Yes. We're talking about 3 generations, you and I.

Mary Alessi [00:09:53]:
Just us.

Steve Alessi [00:09:54]:
Just us.

Mary Alessi [00:09:54]:
Right.

Steve Alessi [00:09:55]:
No. Our parents.

Mary Alessi [00:09:55]:
Yes.

Steve Alessi [00:09:56]:
You know, to us, to now our kids.

Mary Alessi [00:09:58]:
I'm saying in our lifetime. Right. Right.

Steve Alessi [00:10:01]:
We're a case study.

Mary Alessi [00:10:02]:
Absolutely.

Steve Alessi [00:10:02]:
We know our stuff. We do. When we say to people, this is what's gonna work best for you by putting your kids in an environment like the church, a good healthy church, like raising them on biblical principles, like holding on to Yeah. It's been proven over and over again.

Mary Alessi [00:10:35]:
Yes. It it has case study. It has been proven that if you can apply the the way that we live by God's word, the truths, the principles in God's word, that works to keep you away from things like alcoholism, drug abuse, premarital sex that only leads to, you know, diseases and sicknesses, and that's just physically. But the emotional brokenness of that Yeah. And making the decision over the years to say, we're this is the medicine we're going to take. And we didn't get to the end of this and say, man, you know, we missed out on a lot. We kind of wish I would have not done that. You know? Right.

Mary Alessi [00:11:11]:
We're at this season of our life feeling more confident than ever Yeah. That this is the right path to take.

Steve Alessi [00:11:18]:
I wish we could talk to the young adults. I wish we could talk to our teenagers. But I I also wanna make sure we're talking to the parent. Yeah. Because parents today are feeling like, my kids have a leg leg up on me because they're so, introduced. They're so the the the the new way that the culture is trying to force them to live. That this new way they're being introduced to this way too soon. All this stuff is new.

Mary Alessi [00:11:47]:
It's like new drugs.

Steve Alessi [00:11:47]:
From their sexuality, to, you know, the way that they they treat them their themselves, the way that they look at themselves, the way that they think about their future, even their career, their jobs. You know, the young people are trying to force it on the parents today to say no, this we know what we're talking about. This is new. And they look at the parent and says, you're old fashioned.

Mary Alessi [00:12:09]:
Right.

Steve Alessi [00:12:10]:
And a parent feels like when they hear that their hands are tied, because they're tempted to think they are old fashioned.

Mary Alessi [00:12:15]:
Right.

Steve Alessi [00:12:16]:
No, the truth of the matter is your old fashioned values, or the values that you were raised in, that your kids and culture are saying is old fashioned. Okay? It's not progressive. You gotta be progressive today. Right. Oh, or you're conservative. You're holding on. You're made to feel like there's something wrong with you.

Mary Alessi [00:12:36]:
Right.

Steve Alessi [00:12:36]:
You're outdated if you're a conservative because you carry on hold on to conservative values. No, you're not outdated. You're proven.

Mary Alessi [00:12:45]:
Well, it's I

Steve Alessi [00:12:46]:
wish you would see it. Listen to me. They're proven. Absolutely. Those proven principles that they call conservative old fashioned, it's a case study in success.

Mary Alessi [00:12:57]:
Right. Embrace it. Absolutely. And and to to dig down a little deeper into that, because we can't just blanketly say, oh, we've proven it. We have to prove that we've proven it. And so digging down into that a little bit more when we're dealing now with another generation, because this is we've been around this understanding that this principle works because we are that case study and our kids are the case study. I can remember years ago, I was young, our kids were very small, and I got up and I spoke about parenting from on a Sunday. And I talked about they were little now, that there would be no room to allow our kids to be rebellious because we were gonna be very not just strict and stringent, but the way we were gonna raise our kids were more building their confidence through the principles of God's word.

Mary Alessi [00:13:51]:
We were gonna raise them the way our parents raised us. And after the service, and I've told this story, I cannot tell you how many times I've shared this, but somebody that was at our church and they had teenagers came over to me and confronted me about that and said, you know, that's a little harsh. You've gotta give your kids room to make decisions for themselves. I hear what you're saying, but your kids are lit are little. You're gonna see. You can't force your kids to live the way you want them to live. You've gotta leave room for them. And I remember it wrecked me because, you know, I I didn't know.

Mary Alessi [00:14:19]:
I didn't have the confidence I have now that, man, this is not bad medicine. This is good medicine. This is not just supplemental. This is the the main diet. This is what will make my kids healthy. And I was being tested for the first time along the path because I was just doing what my parents did, what when we got together, your parents did. We were we we liked each other a lot because our parents raised us the same with there's no no real room for being enticed by the secular and the culture out there. Now we were we went to public schools.

Mary Alessi [00:14:57]:
We were a part of that, but our parents really taught us how to avoid a lot of the pitfalls by going to church and being a part of the Christian community. And we were so proud of that because we saw our friends whose lives were so screwed up because their parents did give them options. Yeah. And so you and I decided, alright, we're gonna push this case study down the field a little bit further. How about 10 more years? 15, 20 more years? And when this particular person said that to me, it made me feel very insecure because with every case study comes a new culture that will cause you to start questioning, man, are we too hard? Are we too stringent? Maybe the world's changed. Maybe we're the it's a different world. Maybe kids are different. Maybe their brains are different.

Mary Alessi [00:15:39]:
Maybe we're we know no. No. The recipe does not change. It is the same. The problem is the culture gets worse. So now when you change up the recipe and your kids are susceptible to what's going on in the world today and you you don't keep them through listen. This is what we know works. We're not gonna change up the process Nope.

Mary Alessi [00:16:05]:
Because we know it's gonna work. You start negotiating now within that cultural season, the outcome could be way worse than what it was when when we were in the eighties, when the worst our friends did or we ever were tempted to do was go out behind the house, smoke a cigarette. You know, today, if you, you know, let the process stop for whatever reason, your kids are now prone to being seduced into into the LGBTQ community when they didn't they weren't gay. But now they're being seduced to believe, you know what? You don't have to be born this way. We've evolved from that. Here's what you can be. You don't have a boyfriend? You can have a girlfriend. Why not? Why not? Anything goes.

Mary Alessi [00:16:47]:
Well, listen. The old values aren't the old values. They're values that lead your kids to good self esteem, good decisions, feeling good about who they are. And that's the proven system that we know works if you work that system.

Steve Alessi [00:17:04]:
Yeah. I think it's funny. Because I remember when, paper bags that my mom would go to Publix, and she'd get her groceries and bring them home in paper bags. That time, all of a sudden, people started saying paper bags are bad for the environment, so you need plastic bags. And everybody changed from using paper bags to plastic bag plastic bags. But now you go into Publix and you try to bag your clothes or your Groceries. Your groceries. And they're telling you, no, you don't really want plastic.

Steve Alessi [00:17:41]:
You need to buy this bag over here that is reusable. It'll cost you $5, but you can bring it back with you, and now it's reusable. Well, it's the same with water. We used to drink water out of the spigot I know. Out of a hose that sat in the heat for 20 hours, and we run out there and turn that thing on because we were so thirsty. And he said, no. You can't do that. You need to drink water out of the bottles.

Steve Alessi [00:18:06]:
These, you know, water bottles is the way to do it now. And now they started putting bottle water in bottles, but now they're telling us we shouldn't be drinking. Now there's boxes of bottles of water. Boxes of water. Boxes of water. You you shouldn't be drinking bottled water because plastic is so bad for you and the environment. And here's the problem. When you start looking at the new Yeah.

Steve Alessi [00:18:28]:
That culture and society tries to introduce to you in the realm of raising your family and raising your teenagers, and teenagers trying to live their life. If you buy into the new, you can't go back and look at a proven track record of success.

Mary Alessi [00:18:45]:
No. You can't. Well, I heard somebody say recently on a podcast, and I thought this was interesting, and they weren't, this wasn't a Christian podcast at all. But the comment that they made was when they're in their forties and when they were young, their parents raised them on this book by James Dobson, which is all about raising your children right, how to raise kids, how to discipline kids. Well, you and I are we're very familiar with that book as kids because it it was the the the library, the Bible for every parent raising kids. Well, then we got away from that because it was all about authoritarianism and discipline in the home. Loving, strong, discipline in the home. So we were raised on that.

Mary Alessi [00:19:28]:
Well, now we've come through so many different processes. But case studies have been done. Steve, they haven't even lasted 10 years with, gender gentle parenting. Okay? And it was I said gender. I didn't misspeak. There's gentle parent parenting and now there's there's gender neutral parenting. Okay. Let's see how long that that's gonna last about a hot minute because what they're gonna create is children who are so unstable.

Mary Alessi [00:19:56]:
I mean, when we were kids, one of the main questions you ask yourself is, Who am I? Why am I here? Let's just throw into that bucket. You don't have to be anything. You don't have to be a boy or a girl until you decide. So parents have tried to move away from proven track records of what has created good solid people that add value to the world. Yeah. Strong parenting. Parents who do not hand their kids over to the government, to teachers, to therapists. Now the book's coming out.

Mary Alessi [00:20:30]:
We've said this for years. Go down the road 20 years on this new thing and just write the book on how all this was wrong.

Steve Alessi [00:20:36]:
Yeah.

Mary Alessi [00:20:36]:
Because that's what's gonna happen and you'll make $1,000,000. Well, it's we we laugh, but that's the truth. The proven way to make sure, as we know, and we don't say this arrogantly, we watched it, we've lived it, we see it.

Steve Alessi [00:20:51]:
It's a case study, right?

Mary Alessi [00:20:52]:
It's a case study. It's proven. If you wanna raise good, solid kids who know who they are, who don't rebel against you, maybe they might a little bit through a season, but you're giving them a strong foundation to come home to, raise them with Bible principles. It works every time. And what's funny is I say this about James Dobson. The question was asked is is, our case studies cyclical? Are we basically just going back in time and recycling something that we knew in the fifties? How about yeah?

Steve Alessi [00:21:28]:
Yeah.

Mary Alessi [00:21:29]:
Yes. We are. So it's not old school. It's what works. And young parents, younger generations, whatever their brokenness is, whatever their issues are, and they're trying to create a new foundation of truth, it never outlasts its bad medicine.

Steve Alessi [00:21:46]:
Yeah. It is bad medicine. Now growing kids, growing a family is always gonna have its pitfalls.

Mary Alessi [00:21:52]:
Absolutely.

Steve Alessi [00:21:52]:
It's always gonna be hard. It's gonna be challenging. You're always gonna have 1 or 2 kids that get a little rebellious, and they go through it. But it should be a season, and they go through it, but they also should come out of it. Yeah. They shouldn't constantly be living in rebellion. They shouldn't be allowed or encouraged or given the freedom to make choices in their rebellion that's going to have an effect in their life 10, 15, 20 years down the road. Shouldn't do that.

Steve Alessi [00:22:17]:
You don't let your kids, you know, try to to practice a a a sexual lifestyle that's not in line with the biblical values. You don't let them get out there and try to practice that to try to discover who they are. You no. We know who they are. Yeah. Case study proves, no. Here's a way that you live your life.

Mary Alessi [00:22:37]:
That's right.

Steve Alessi [00:22:38]:
And, if anything, I just want us to be able to say to the parent that's listening today, be strong and trust your instincts that you find in the Bible. Yeah. Conservative values, be strong and embrace those. Here here's what I find so interesting. Cancel culture that started to raise its head Yeah. Not too long ago. Like, that was really gonna work.

Mary Alessi [00:23:05]:
I know. It's already canceled.

Steve Alessi [00:23:07]:
The cancel the can the people that were canceling others are getting canceled.

Mary Alessi [00:23:12]:
Absolutely. Absolutely.

Steve Alessi [00:23:14]:
The case study showed that didn't work.

Mary Alessi [00:23:15]:
That didn't work. Quit trying that.

Steve Alessi [00:23:17]:
Why would you buy into it? You know why people bought into it? Because society was putting pressure on them.

Mary Alessi [00:23:22]:
That's right.

Steve Alessi [00:23:23]:
They wanted to line up with society and culture. Yes, that's it. You know, we don't want to cuss, but screw that.

Mary Alessi [00:23:28]:
I that I ain't cussing.

Steve Alessi [00:23:31]:
Society is not gonna teach you No. How to No. Embrace the conservative biblical values that are ultimately going to give you the results that you're looking for in life? No. No. That stuff's gonna confuse you. And and you're gonna end up in the future with, like, did I do? You're gonna live with so much regret. You're gonna wish you would have done it differently. Mary just hung up the phone with somebody today.

Steve Alessi [00:23:53]:
Dealing with this right now with their kids.

Mary Alessi [00:23:56]:
It's tough.

Steve Alessi [00:23:56]:
They let society get in the way. They let their their 9 to 5 get in the way. They they let the kids wanting to leave them with all their sports, all their other extracurricular activities, lead them. They didn't put their kids in a church environment. They didn't raise them in a youth group, a good Christian youth group. They didn't do any of that. Right. Because the parent was so busy outside that now they're dealing with somebody who's ready to take the next step in the season of their life.

Steve Alessi [00:24:23]:
And they're like, oh my gosh, we missed them. Well How about this? How about this? Yes. We we and I'm not I don't I don't wanna step on anybody's toes here. But we're getting ready to do something with our teenagers in our church that parents should have done for them when they were young. Yeah. We wanna dedicate those teenagers to what would be, God's plan for their future. Okay? Teenagers. And just get the hand of God over them to cover them.

Steve Alessi [00:24:52]:
Right? We're hearing from parents that oh, my gosh, I never did it to my kid growing up. And these are these are parents that are sitting in church every week.

Mary Alessi [00:25:00]:
Yes.

Steve Alessi [00:25:00]:
They said they never did it to their kid, for their kid. For

Mary Alessi [00:25:03]:
their kids.

Steve Alessi [00:25:03]:
Yeah. Young. And we believe not in child baptism. We believe in child dedication. The difference being we dedicate our kids. We don't baptize them into a relationship with God. That doesn't happen until they are of the age of accountability Yeah. Where they know the difference between right from wrong.

Steve Alessi [00:25:20]:
A child then can come into a relationship with God. Prior to that, the child is given a measure of grace because they don't know the difference between right and wrong. The moment they can connect those dots is the moment now they have to start making a decision about their relationship with God, which that's why to us dedication is so much more important. Because dedication means we come alongside of those parents as a church. And we say we're going to help raise your child in a godly way. We're gonna pray. We're gonna provide the program ship and all of that that's required to help get your kid in that direction. But, parent, you need to do your part by getting your kid in church on a regular basis and being faithful to the house of God.

Steve Alessi [00:26:01]:
Well, we're finding parents who come to church haven't done that for their kids. Yeah. And now they're sitting back saying, man, I missed my opportunity. And they're feeling like, wow, I should have done it better. We don't want you to ever get your kids to a place where they're teenagers and wish you would have done it better all because you felt society

Mary Alessi [00:26:20]:
Right.

Steve Alessi [00:26:21]:
Pulling you in their direction, culture pulling you in that direction.

Mary Alessi [00:26:26]:
Right.

Steve Alessi [00:26:26]:
That's popular because it's in Hollywood and because some social media influencer tells you this is cool. We don't want you to do that only to come back down the road later and say, my gosh. It didn't work. Look what my kids have been, you know, I produce with my kids. We don't want you to live with that regret. We're saying, go back to the case study, man. Yeah. We're proven.

Steve Alessi [00:26:49]:
Not that we wanna put ourselves up on this pedestal like we're perfect and we got it all together. Here's what we know. Biblical principles play down in the home on a regular basis is gonna win in the long run. It's a case study.

Mary Alessi [00:27:03]:
And and it definitely it's one of those things that with with enough time to prove the outcome, you can't argue with the outcome. No. You can't argue with it. It's an absolute truth. It's not even worth stepping out of and testing other waters and seeing if another way will work. Why? Stick with the recipe. Listen, I know this sounds dumb, but, you know, McDonald's has lasted for so long. They they don't change the recipe.

Mary Alessi [00:27:30]:
There's certain things that can last through time because the same is the same is the same. And here's the problem when you don't believe that truth, the world has changed, but the principles have not. Now, if you've raised your kids church adjacent

Steve Alessi [00:27:49]:
Yeah.

Mary Alessi [00:27:50]:
Right? We we go to church when we can or we we live by the by these principles when we can. Okay. We'll try to do that with any other facet of life. Try to do that with eating. Try to do that with exercise. Try to do that with sunshine. We do it when we can. Alright.

Mary Alessi [00:28:05]:
Well, you're gonna reap the benefits of to the degree that you've applied this to your life.

Steve Alessi [00:28:12]:
Right.

Mary Alessi [00:28:12]:
You're gonna get the health benefits one way or the other at whatever level. But the problem with today is there are some things you expose your kids to that aren't as easy to quit as smoking cigarettes, or trying drugs on the weekend with their friends, or premarital sex. There's some things that you can't turn the tide on with them.

Steve Alessi [00:28:33]:
And

Mary Alessi [00:28:35]:
once they have been seduced into something, because you did not know and that that's the problem with parents today. We're ignorant to what the atmosphere and the environment is is being set for our kids. We're we think that we think all the our world's the same. You know, I rode my bike to school and and my kids are out out there and my, you know, we spent the night over at friend's house and my kids the world you don't understand. The world has completely changed. If there was ever a time to become more dogmatic, if there was ever a time for you and I to to say it louder for the people in the back.

Steve Alessi [00:29:12]:
Yeah.

Mary Alessi [00:29:13]:
Okay? It's now. And it's not because we are older now.

Steve Alessi [00:29:15]:
Right.

Mary Alessi [00:29:16]:
It's because this case study has come in.

Steve Alessi [00:29:19]:
Mhmm.

Mary Alessi [00:29:20]:
The the results are in, people. Yes. They are.

Steve Alessi [00:29:23]:
Well, we've seen corporate America, like beer companies and Dorito chip companies, make a big mistake by buying into the culture and trying to, be in line with the culture only to know that some of their patrons that have used their product for years, they don't want their chain. Their their case study

Mary Alessi [00:29:41]:
That's it.

Steve Alessi [00:29:41]:
That that doesn't work To try to buy into the culture and be led by that culture.

Mary Alessi [00:29:47]:
That's right.

Steve Alessi [00:29:48]:
No. Go back to those values that worked so long. I just wish they can see the picture of it. Biblical values represent a case study of what's gonna work in the future. Now I know a lot of people listening to us may not be that connected with the local church. They may not have the same kind of, biblical beliefs and convictions that you and I share. But, Mary, I wish they can just see that that, you know, the the value of those biblical principles. Doing it right consistently, it's it's gonna play out in your marriage, it's gonna play out in the way you raise your kids.

Steve Alessi [00:30:28]:
It will. Your mom and dad getting on the same page with these things or a single parent out there grabbing hold of those biblical values that are so important, it's going to play out. Case study proves it. If the drug company can't bring a drug to the market, to the public, without going through it, why would you take a risk with your own life?

Mary Alessi [00:30:50]:
Yeah, that's really good.

Steve Alessi [00:30:52]:
Use those values. It's a case study. Yeah. Plays out. Well, we hope you enjoyed this episode of the family business with the Alessi. We know family is everybody's business. And that's why we wanna help you build a happy and a strong one. Take care.

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