Summer Shorts! The Podience's Favorite Stories from the Family Business | S6 E36

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Hello, everybody, and welcome to the family business with the Alessis. My name is Rochelle Alessi, and we're actually getting ready for an amazing summer here with our podcast. So this summer, we wanna hear some of your favorite family stories. So let us know on our social media platforms or our text line some of your favorite stories because we're also gonna be sharing some of our favorite family stories with you.

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So let's make this summer memorable by you sharing your stories with us and we are sharing your stories with you. But in the meantime, remember, family is everybody's business.

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This story This story is all about a golf outing and a bird robbery. Here's where in in the book I start talking about this feeling of loss that I started to have, where first I'm told that I can't eat certain foods anymore. And I'm like, I gotta give up burgers.

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I I gotta give up sausage and ham for my with my breakfast. I can't have grits anymore, you know. I I remember when the lady from the American Heart Association came in and started talking to me about my diet, what I needed to change, and I'm like, I'm so depressed. I can't have that anymore.

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So I start to go through this thing of restriction.

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I'm I'm being restricted. Part of it was also, you know, they the demand, okay, now you gotta go exercise. So I'm like, well, I didn't mind exercising when I wanted to exercise. And my my my thought about exercise was as long as my chest was bigger than my stomach, I was good. And even though my stomach took over in my forties, it didn't motivate me, but I never wanted to be forced to exercise. But now, I'm being forced so it's like, I'm losing my freedom there. Sure. Then, they give me a card because they inserted a stent and now this card has to be on me that talks tells what kind of stent it is when it was put in. So if I have any other kind of medical emergencies, the medical professional can look at the card and know, okay, this is what we're dealing with. Then they started putting me on medication and I hadn't been on medication before that, but now it's blood pressure, cholesterol.

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They wanna make sure the the blood's thin enough to get through that stent, any other future. So I'm wrestling with restrictions and I'm feeling like I'm no longer a man, because even that other part of me where I was sharing intimacy with Mary, I was so afraid that my sex life would be interrupted.

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And that in itself was like, gosh, forget it. Yeah. So I'm wrestling with all of this, and then Mary's sister is getting married in Orlando.

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And between Miami and Orlando is where we're at in Stuart, 2 hours north of Miami, and we're there resting, getting back on our feet. So this must have been 3 weeks, 4 weeks after the heart attack.

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Now I didn't like being alone because I always felt, wow, what happens if something Right. Occurs? So I was real scared about that. So I'm losing all these freedoms. Right? Feeling like a child and then Mary says to me, hey, listen, I'd like to go to my sister's wedding, but if you don't want me to Yeah. Then I won't, but I'd like to go. And I'm like, no, you gotta go Mary. She goes, well, what are you gonna do? I said, well, I think I can be alright. I'll be alone if you just drive up, come back, I should be alone. She goes, no. I've already talked to Maury. David and Maury are gonna come up.

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David's gonna stay with you, and Maury's gonna take me to Orlando for the wedding. Now at first, I said to her, great, because I'm thinking I wanna hang out with David. I've been with Mary all this time. I I need something normal Yeah. In my life, so bring on a friend. And so I felt good, but then I remember going to sleep that night and feeling like, oh my God, am I this week that I now need a babysitter?

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Because I couldn't be left alone. Mary was afraid to leave me alone.

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So I wrestled with you coming up because I didn't, I I was feeling like I was losing all of my independence.

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Now, I'm so dependent upon medicine, eating the right kind of food, workout Yeah. Regimen, And, now, I need a guy to come babysit me. So, I'm wrestling with that. Then, you come up and you're like, I'm thinking we're chilling, you know, watching TV or whatever. And you're like, let's go play golf. And I'm like, that's the worst thing.

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But you know what? Maybe I do need to get out. So we go to this golf course, and we're out there, and you pull out a cigar, because we enjoy a nice cigar every so often, and you pull out a cigar, and I remember the doctor, of course, saying, you can't smoke cigars, you can't, you know, smoke this, that, and the other, at least at this point. Right.

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And, you're smoking that cigar, and I'm getting pissed because I'm like, here I am again. I'm restricted. Mhmm. I can't have a cigar. So now, we're on the golf course, you're smoking a cigar, you pull up to the green, tell the story, would you put your cigar down?

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Well, first, I I think if I if I would probably been a better friend, I probably wouldn't have pulled out the cigar because now that you're looking at it and you're feeling all these restrictions, of course, I'm not smart enough to see that. I'm like, well, I'm gonna join that while I can. That gets just a little bit selfish. Yeah. But you were drowning in your own sorrow, man. Yeah.

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That's true. You needed to relax. I I can look and make all kinds of excuses, but, but a better friend probably would've just sealed out there, but in any case, yeah. So we we're, my thought process is I need to get this guy out of the house because when, you know, when I see you knowing your personality and knowing that sometimes things gotta just get through normal and you gotta have some fun, you gotta have a laugh, and and I think that's where it comes in where God only gives us so much he we can handle, and he gives us some kind of levity and, you know, with something funny, but we Yeah. We pull up to the green, which, you know, at that time, I wasn't as good a golfer as I am now, so it was probably after 6 or 7 shots to get to the green. And so we pulled the green, and I I leave my cigar on the the cup holder, and we go up to the green and and I'm putting it, and I could see the card out in the left corner of my eye. I'm about to hit the ball and I see this huge crow. I mean, at the time it looked like a vulture. I think it was maybe this big, And all of a sudden, he flies in the cart, and I'm thinking, you know, we don't have any I don't think we had any food. And, well Definitely not chips. Couldn't have any. Yeah. I know. So all of a sudden, he he grabs the cigar in his beak, and I'm like and I I think I got more mad that it was my cigar instead of food because it was an expensive cigar. Remember, it's back then when we had the Torontos, that was the Toronto glasses too. Yes. Yes. And they were expensive for us back then. And especially that, you know, we had just lost the business. I'm thinking that's a $25 cigar in there. And so the the crow comes in, just grabs it in his beak. And what was really interesting, it wasn't sticking straight out, sticking sideways like it was a gangster crow. And it it was like and I'm like, I go to hit the ball and I'm looking at the crow like, hey.

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Hey. So I go run up this thing. This crow just flies, just flaps his wing, and I and I promise you he's looking down at me laughing. Right. And I'm watching. I'm looking up this crow, and he goes and he lands in a tree. And he's just sitting there with this big cigar. It looked like a, it honestly looked like a seed from The Godfather.

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Oh, my god. Had I not I would not believe if you told me that story as much as I trust you, I probably would think he saw something weird if I wouldn't have been there to see it myself. But this bird is up there like this going with his cigar hanging. I'm thinking what what a side is this? So, anyway, it was just and it was we had such a good laugh. Oh my god. I think I'm thinking to myself, it was probably the first time you had laughed. Laughed. Like, genuinely laughed. Oh, we almost peed our pants at it. And then you're throwing rocks at it to try to get the drop to some car. Yes. I think I threw a couple golf balls at him too. I'm trying to get him at least to drop it, and the thing just flies off. With the cigar. With the cigar, he wouldn't drop it. I don't know if he's trying to make a mess of cigars. He's probably got he's probably thinking this is much easier than getting squeezed. These things fit together perfectly. They just, like, air in a box. And the point of it all when it's all said and done, it's almost as though the crow looked over its shoulders and flew away and looked at you and said, well, if Steve can't smoke a cigar Yeah. Neither will you. Yeah.

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So that was one of the comic reliefs that we were able to enjoy, but that was a memory, man. That that was an incredible memory. I still I still can visualize that crow looking at me. I've been telling you he was staring right at me Oh my god. With with the message, and maybe it was that message. That message. That message.

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This story is all about how a surprising person had to save the day. You have a great story about when we were in Georgia, going down to look at this beautiful blue water, spring and what happened? So I was raised by a grandfather that liked to get out in the woods and taught us a lot about the woods. So I hadn't been in the woods in years. But when we started building our house out there, immediately everything that I knew as a girl, being in that familiar environment, all flooded back. So I would say to you, we need snake boots, we need to walk through the woods with a stick. And you're like, what we need to stick for? Oh, I just I remembered all that knowledge of what to look for and how to look for snakes came flooding back. And you know the patterns, you know, the temperature and the environment, the habitat for snakes. So we went to look now mind you, we tromped through our own property, we tromped through other people's property, we had not seen any snakes. But I also would tell you walk heavy, because snakes feel the vibration and so Stop on the ground. Stop on the ground and you laughed at me. Some of our friends laughed at me. I'm like, I know what I'm talking about. I can spot snakes. I've seen them. I've my grandfather has taught me how to see them. Yeah. And so we went to go pick up some lumber from a neighbor. Yep. And our contractor who's from Georgia, all these guys are Georgia boys and met us out there. And it's very remote. So 5 or 6 of us walking in through the woods. All men. I'm the only girl. Yep. And we're walking through and I'm I immediately he says, I'd like for you guys to see my blue lagoon. Beautiful. It's gorgeous, and it's down through this little pathway. So we're walking through this very woodsy woodsy area down to this water and all I can think of is snakes. Not out of fear. I was not afraid.

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Yeah. Because I had everything I needed to protect myself. We all did. But I started looking. And as the story goes, our friend was standing right next to a I think it was a No, we're all we're all there looking at the beautiful water. All the guys were mesmerized by the water. That's it. And we're just staring down into this dark hole of water. And there you are saying Don't move. There's a snake right behind your foot.

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Giving could have gone horribly wrong.

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Is that what you did at Thanksgiving 2 years ago?

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Oh, no. That was my hair.

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Okay. Now, do we have time to tell that story? Tell it. Because I would like to tell that story. Oh, sure. We were all back together at the farmhouse.

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We were so excited. Martha and Danny and the kids and mom came, and we were gonna make our famous big southern thanks giving. We have a routine.

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We've been together at thanksgiving a lot. And so we had just been, I think, with your mom. Had your dad passed, that was when your father had passed. Anyway, and we were talking about how people give the different ways they give. Some people like to give birthday presents and birthday gifts, little things, and other people give bigger gifts.

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Once Thanksgiving morning. So we he and I had been talking breakfast, everything's going on. The day. Morning. People give.

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So we're having this beautiful morning and you were at your cottage and Martha and I were cooking and you were gonna come over and make your stuffing, and you came over and you look so good and all of us were ready to go. And we were the conversation was about the way people the different ways people give. And you walk in and Steve goes, Faith, you know, you're not you're not much of a giver, are you?

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And we were like, what? And I was miss mixing mashed potato and I was like, and Martha just froze like, what is he doing? And you said, what do you mean?

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He goes, well, you know, like my mom, she gives birthday cards every year and anniversary cards and you don't really do that. What we were saying was the different ways of giving. Some people, they give little throughout the year and other people give bigger one time gifts like stroke a big check to help out. But we did he didn't clarify the conversation you'd walked in on. So it just sounded like he just out of nowhere said, bloop.

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You're you're not much of a giver. And he doesn't he doesn't I mean, he feels the room go cold.

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He sees your face like, what? And he just is like, yeah.

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Uh-huh. Right? And we're like, no.

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And at that point, I knew that if he felt if we if I had embarrassed him that he messed up in front of you and Martha, he would double down. And then we're cooking and we don't need that atmosphere of conflict with him doubling down. And I see Martha, and she can read my mic because we're twins, and we're but we don't we can't even catch ourselves to go, no. That's not what he meant. It was just such a weird moment and you walk out. Yes. You got mad and you walked out, which is not usually your style. And so as soon as you walked out, Martha and I both just went, what were you thinking? What did you say? He's like, what? What did I say? What What are you talking about? I didn't say anything. That's not what I meant. And it was really hard to regroup. Yeah. No. But she did.

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Your mom, you But then you walked back in Yep. With a smile on your face. Yep. And, of course, Martha had to walk over and say, please don't listen to Steve. He did not mean it, and I'm texting Steve go because I didn't want there to be a conflict. So I'm texting him going, you gotta go fix this. You said it wrong. What did I say? You just gotta fix it. It sounded like this just to reduce conflict and, it turned out to be And I blame it on the fact that you never raised sons.

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Oh, yeah. See? Well, I think this These are boys in the family first. This just happened. Yeah. Right. But see, it didn't it it wasn't something that severed anything. It was a bump in the road.

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Right. Because we knew each other's heart. Right. What, you know, he wouldn't intentionally hurt me even though he hurt my feelings.

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Yes. He said he hurt my feelings. It wasn't fatal.

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No. No. It wasn't fatal. No. No. I mean, I'll kill him Shit. Tomorrow and tell God he died. Out of pack. How to pack.

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